Hi, tainan boy, I am moved by your questions. I think all these questions are very good and helpful to me. It is very good to answer these questions. It gives me a chance to rethink my marriage again and what I have done in my marriage. I would like to answer here and in your mailbox.

1.Can you list the top 3 reasons that caused you to marry with your current husband before?
I loved him deeply.
I knew he loved me deeply.
We have knew each other for 6 years and we experienced many difficulties together and this made me believe we can go through any difficulty in the future life.

2.Also, Can you list the top 3 reasons why you want to get out of this marriage ?
a. He is bad-tempered and can not get along with my parents very well. actually, he quarreled with my parents violently when he firts met them.
b. I got my ex-bf email and he still loved me.
c. he loved another woman and asked for divorce. I can feel he does not love me any more. When we met at the last time for struggling for our marriage, he would not give me a clear answer about their relationship. I feel frustrated.

3.Do you learn the lessons from current marriage ? What are they ?
Would you please to share with us ?
Yes. I learn much from it.
a. please try your best to stay with your couple. please do not live in the different places.
b. be honesty and be responsible to your couple. As long as the marriage is there, do not say love to any other persons even if you know that guy before you were married.
c. nobody is perfect. learn to be patient.


4.Also, Can you think about three critical factors that make a happy couple? What factors are missing in your marriage ?
yeah.
a. patience.
b. trust adn honesty and responsible.
c. think about often how I can do for his happiness

5. Is there any chance that you want to try more and thus make your current marriage a better one ?
No.
Too many things happen in my marriage. I have no strength and courage to save it. After marriage, we seperated too long time. I do think it is better for both of us to divorce. He is in china and I am in usa and I do not love him any more. Even if I go back china, I shall not go to his city.

Tainan boy, I ask myself these questions many times. THe above are my answers. Thank you for your caring and hope to get your reply again.