hey, missy,
I don't know if you read my reply?????
I think yourself is very "LU'" neh!!!!!!

>她說了一堆朋友,朋友的朋友,都是用觀光簽證或學生簽證進去,
(還強調這是合法的)---然後結婚--然後辦綠卡......
It's not only legal, it's a BETTER way!!!!
Why do you keep thinking that she or "they" are lying to you??????????
>我爸說我們希望用未婚妻簽證
Yes, it is 合法的方式,
but it's not better!! it's not even any good!!!!!
it's trouble!!
it's harder to apply, and once you get in america,
you'll have to get married in a very short period!!
她真狠! 要我用觀光簽證進去
如果只簽出來一個月
萬一不喜歡我
我也沒法子留在美國......(who says that if you use 未婚妻簽證, then you can stay longer?)
something is wrong with you.....
if you use "fiancee" visa,
you'd probably have to get married in 10 days!!
if you don't, it may have influence next time you try to get a visa!!

AGAIN!!
觀光簽證IS BETTER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Got it?
Even you get married the day before your visa expire,
you can legally stay in america and apply for "work" permit!!

if you and your boyfriend really love each other,
I don't think there will be any problem,
as long as you don't live with his parents.

but now you already have this HUGE prejudice and bias against his family(mom),
thinking that they are trying to 傷害 you,
I don't know how you two can go any further.

or, like you say,
請我男友回來台灣,如果他愛我...
I guess.
請我男友以合法的方式來申請
未婚妻簽證
Yes, 合法, but bad way.
觀光簽證結婚,然後辦綠卡
這是合法的 and better!!!!!
她說這是最快的最好的方法
TOTALLY AGREE!!!!!

CAPICHE???????????

anyway, good luck!!!!!