I want toknow my marriage and my profession. Please give me sincere help. I am very painful in my marriage. I was married 4 years ago and we stayed with each other very seldom because we lived in different cities. I am applying for divorce now. and I already am 32 years old and still pursue my degree. I hope to know which area I can succeed in my work. Thank you very much for your sincere help! The following is my birthday in western calender. sorry I could not input BIG5.

國曆：  59 年   10 月  7 日   未 時生                     性別：          女 性 

農曆：  59 年    9 月  8 日   未 時生                     虛歲：          33 歲 

                                                                                

八字：     時          日          月          年         大運：  11 ~ 20  甲申 

           柱          柱          柱          柱                 21 ~ 30  癸未 

           ：          ：          ：          ：                 31 ~ 40  壬午 

           傷                      正          比                 41 ~ 50  辛巳 

           官                      財          肩                 51 ~ 60  庚辰 

           癸          庚          乙          庚                 61 ~ 70  己卯 

           未          申          酉          戌                 71 ~ 80  戊寅 

         乙丁己      戊壬庚          辛      丁辛戊               81 ~ 90  丁丑 

         正正正      偏食比          劫      正劫偏               91 ~ 100 丙子 

         財官印      印神肩          財      官財印                             

                                                                                

大運：     91      81      71      61      51      41      31      21      11   

           七      正      偏      正      比      劫      食      傷      偏   

           殺      官      印      印      肩      財      神      官      財   

           丙      丁      戊      己      庚      辛      壬      癸      甲   

           子      丑      寅      卯      辰      巳      午      未      申   

             癸  辛癸己  戊丙甲      乙  癸乙戊  庚戊丙    己丁  乙丁己  戊壬庚 

             傷  劫傷正  偏七偏      正  傷正偏  比偏七    正正  正正正  偏食比 

             官  財官印  印殺財      財  官財印  肩印殺    印官  財官印  印神肩 

                                                                                

白露：  59 年    8 月  8 日  9 時 38 分整      紫微斗數命盤製作程式四柱八字資訊 

寒露：  59 年    9 月 10 日  1 時  2 分整                                       

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起運：  於出生  9 年  8 個月又 21 天                                            

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距離白露 42022 分鐘折合  9 年  8 個月 21 天換運 [每逢庚或乙年  5 月 29 日交大運]

                                                                                

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未  午  巳  辰  卯  寅  丑  子  亥  戌   戌  亥  子  丑  寅  卯  辰  巳  午  未 

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己  戊  丁  丙  乙  甲  癸  壬  辛  庚   庚  辛  壬  癸  甲  乙  丙  丁  戊  己 

巳  辰  卯  寅  丑  子  亥  戌  酉  申   子  丑  寅  卯  辰  巳  午  未  申  酉 

20  19  18  17  16  15  14  13  12  11   20  19  18  17  16  15  14  13  12  11 

                                                                                

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己  戊  丁  丙  乙  甲  癸  壬  辛  庚   庚  辛  壬  癸  甲  乙  丙  丁  戊  己 

卯  寅  丑  子  亥  戌  酉  申  未  午   寅  卯  辰  巳  午  未  申  酉  戌  亥 

30  29  28  27  26  25  24  23  22  21   30  29  28  27  26  25  24  23  22  21 

                                                                                

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己  戊  丁  丙  乙  甲  癸  壬  辛  庚   庚  辛  壬  癸  甲  乙  丙  丁  戊  己 

丑  子  亥  戌  酉  申  未  午  巳  辰   辰  巳  午  未  申  酉  戌  亥  子  丑 

40  39  38  37  36  35  34  33  32  31   40  39  38  37  36  35  34  33  32  31 

                                                                                

19  18  17  16  15  14  13  12  11  10   19  18  17  16  15  14  13  12  11  10 

己  戊  丁  丙  乙  甲  癸  壬  辛  庚   庚  辛  壬  癸  甲  乙  丙  丁  戊  己 

亥  戌  酉  申  未  午  巳  辰  卯  寅   午  未  申  酉  戌  亥  子  丑  寅  卯 

50  49  48  47  46  45  44  43  42  41   50  49  48  47  46  45  44  43  42  41 

                                                                                

29  28  27  26  25  24  23  22  21  20   29  28  27  26  25  24  23  22  21  20 

己  戊  丁  丙  乙  甲  癸  壬  辛  庚   庚  辛  壬  癸  甲  乙  丙  丁  戊  己 

酉  申  未  午  巳  辰  卯  寅  丑  子   申  酉  戌  亥  子  丑  寅  卯  辰  巳 

60  59  58  57  56  55  54  53  52  51   60  59  58  57  56  55  54  53  52  51 

I do really need every specialist's help. I cost more than ten years in struggling in the emotion things. Now I am in USA and am applying for divorce. I feel very confused about my destiny. Will I live by myself lonely for the rest of life? or will I find a trustworthy man to be married again?

此命為庚生酉月, 時逢癸未, 地支申酉戌合金局, 天干有引, 可化,
天干月柱乙與庚合化金, 月支為酉金, 故可化, 時支未土又來生金, 此為身強無疑, 全局若無癸水, 便為專旺格, 現在祗可作為正格看, 身強喜洩, 故喜水, 喜木, 忌見金及土, 火可剋金但可生土, 為閒神.

thank you, Keung kei! I see many specific terms in your prediction. I do not understand them well. Would you like to give me more detailed prediction? what is 正格 and 身強喜洩? How does such kind of 命局 reflect in my real life?

is it really difficult to predict my destiny? When I was in china, I met an old man who is skilled in forseeing by hand. When I asked about my future marriage at that time, he did not answer me, although he anwered all other questions. Many friends in another website tells me I have great difficulty in my marriage. Who would like to tell me how about my marriage, the present and future? How can I do for a happy family life?

是否上年剛剛有了男友

I have told this in my last post. Yes, I met an old friend here last year when I just came here. He was my ex-boyfriend. I still love him. but he leaves now.

老實說,你的愛情裏,你是個愛自己多過愛男友的人,
婚姻真是有點難,好好把握今年下半年

How do you get this judgement? by my ba1 zi4? or by your feeling? Maybe you are right but not totally. I love myself but you know every one loves his/herself. I can sacrifice to my husband or ex-bf. If this thing can let them happy, even if I did not like, I would try to let myself do it. But the only thing which I can not do for them is that I shall not give up my study, never. I gave up my study or work for my ex-bf. but he did not love me later. That made me think that as a woman, no matter how much you love a man, you need to be yourself independently. So when my husband asked me not to go to usa, I said No. Maybe this hurted him and he later loved another woman and ask for divorce.

I do not understand why you suggest me to 好好把握今年下半年? Will something happen in the next half year?

Thank you very much for giving your suggestion.

Who would like to tell me how about my marriage, the present and future? How can I do for a happy family life?
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I have studied 8 words for years. I believe that everyone has his lessons to learn in his life . However, I also believe that it is not wise for people to attribute all kinds of failure or unhappiness to their own 8 words,

I would like to try my best to help you out though I don't know if it will work.

Let's try to set your 8 words aside for a while. We will review it later on.

First of all, I would like you to think about the following questions.

1.Can you list the top 3 reasons that caused you to marry with your current husband before?

2.Also, Can you list the top 3 reasons why you want to get out of this marriage ?


3.Do you learn the lessons from current marriage ? What are they ?
Would you please to share with us ?


4.Also, Can you think about three critical factors that make a happy couple? What factors are missing in your marriage ?

5. Is there any chance that you want to try more and thus make your current marriage a better one ?

You don't need to answer those questions in a hurry. Allow yourself more time to think about those questions. I will come here every day one week from now. After that, I will have a 3 months retreat to go. So, I might not be able to help you after March 10.


If you don't feel comfortable to answer those questions in public, you are welcomed to e-mail me to my account in this web site. With my limited experience and knowledge, I certainly have blind spots

I think that the more information you disclose to the public, the more likely you will get your questions answered. After all, three heads are better than one head. ^-^


Good luck

Tainan Boy

There are some good thinking in this topic. You may look into it to see if it helps.
http://destiny.xfiles.to/ubbthreads/showflat.php?Cat=&Board=talk&Number=54021&fpart=1&PHPSESSID=

Hi, tainan boy, I am moved by your questions. I think all these questions are very good and helpful to me. It is very good to answer these questions. It gives me a chance to rethink my marriage again and what I have done in my marriage. I would like to answer here and in your mailbox.

1.Can you list the top 3 reasons that caused you to marry with your current husband before?
I loved him deeply.
I knew he loved me deeply.
We have knew each other for 6 years and we experienced many difficulties together and this made me believe we can go through any difficulty in the future life.

2.Also, Can you list the top 3 reasons why you want to get out of this marriage ?
a. He is bad-tempered and can not get along with my parents very well. actually, he quarreled with my parents violently when he firts met them.
b. I got my ex-bf email and he still loved me.
c. he loved another woman and asked for divorce. I can feel he does not love me any more. When we met at the last time for struggling for our marriage, he would not give me a clear answer about their relationship. I feel frustrated.

3.Do you learn the lessons from current marriage ? What are they ?
Would you please to share with us ?
Yes. I learn much from it.
a. please try your best to stay with your couple. please do not live in the different places.
b. be honesty and be responsible to your couple. As long as the marriage is there, do not say love to any other persons even if you know that guy before you were married.
c. nobody is perfect. learn to be patient.


4.Also, Can you think about three critical factors that make a happy couple? What factors are missing in your marriage ?
yeah.
a. patience.
b. trust adn honesty and responsible.
c. think about often how I can do for his happiness

5. Is there any chance that you want to try more and thus make your current marriage a better one ?
No.
Too many things happen in my marriage. I have no strength and courage to save it. After marriage, we seperated too long time. I do think it is better for both of us to divorce. He is in china and I am in usa and I do not love him any more. Even if I go back china, I shall not go to his city.

Tainan boy, I ask myself these questions many times. THe above are my answers. Thank you for your caring and hope to get your reply again.